The Tragic Optimist

Category Archives: family

the birds and the bees and the doctors

We got the question at dinner tonight.  You know the one.  We were talking about women having babies and then Zoe asks the obvious next question, “how do you get a baby?”  I wanted to leave it at a woman gets pregnant, Chris tried to make a joke, but Zoe was having none of it, …

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cool vs pretty

Spring has come early this year.  In fact, it feels like winter hardly had a chance.  So we had our first dinner outside.  Nothing fancy: chicken, cauliflower, frozen blueberries that left our fingers purple-stained. In between handfuls of blueberries, Zoe pipes up: “P [a boy at daycare] told me today about the difference between boy …

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2010 – a review mostly in pictures

2010 started out with us here A cozy house for our little family (the year always starts out cold in Minnesota) In the middle was a lot of this and a sad farewell to this but, we ended up with a better house in nearly every other way and oh yeah, there was this which …

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good

We got back from visiting my family on Wednesday.  I keep wanting to write that the trip was wonderful, but that’s not the right word.  So I’ll say it was a good trip.  Because it was good. Grandma’s funeral was on Tuesday, I managed to get through my two readings without completely breaking down.  I …

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Grandma

My grandma died Thursday night. She was 88, and had been in a nursing home since February recovering from a fall. We had hoped that she would be able to come back to live with my parents once she’d gotten a bit stronger and regained some balance. But she fell sick with pneumonia, and then …

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Learning to sew

My mom can do wonders with all things textile.  Seriously.  (I’m bragging, but it’s not just bragging, it’s true).  She made my wedding dress.  And my wedding shawl.  She sews, she knits, she weaves, she felts.  Heck, she’s made money bags out of shredded money and hats out of dog hair, she’s even spun silk …

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journey

late start. snow. icy roads. passing cars and semis in the ditch. sick Zoe.  sick Zoe again.  and again.  multiple clean ups in gas station bathrooms. safe arrival. welcoming family. clean bathrooms. washer and dryer. warm kitchen. home cooked food. Zoe sleeps. I should too. safe travels and happy arrivals to anyone else traveling.

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8 years ago

It was cold that day.  I remember waiting at the back of the church, freezing cold in the silk dress my mom had made, watching out the door and seeing a few flakes of snow drift down.  In October!  I would have been annoyed or amused, but I was preoccupied.  The woman at the back …

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bitterness starting to slowly seep back in

Just got blindsided by two pregnancy announcements in the past 3 days. In retrospect, I should have guessed that both were coming since both women had mentioned that they would probably be trying soon. My one friend is pregnant with her second child and is already 6 months along and somehow I hadn’t caught on. …

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On weddings and marriage…

Wedding My brother got married last Saturday, to an amazing woman, in a wonderful wedding. His wife’s family is from India, so the ceremony was a combined Hindu/Lutheran one. I spent much of the time worried about how Zoe would deal – with the plane ride, with the food, with the messed up schedule, with …

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